Enough Already!

As with most bloggers, there are certain issues going on in my life that I do not discuss on the internet. In fact, there are a few things that I refuse to discuss with anyone, with the exception of my husband and a few gal pals. However, I find these are the things that I want and NEED to vent about the most. So, without giving details, I’m putting into writing, things I would love to say to some folks in my real life. Obviously, most of you won’t get this post, but that’s okay because the point is to relieve some pent-up frustration.


To H: GET A GRIP AND GROW UP! You are an adult now and as such, you are responsible for your own life. No more mooching and no more abusing the love your family has for you. It’s time you get clean for good, get a job and do something with yourself. No one has a perfect life handed to them on a silver platter, they work for it. That includes you. So stop feeling sorry for yourself and get off your lazy ass. Everyone is getting tired of hearing your “Woe as me” stories.

To S: Honey, you have to get better. The help is being offered and you are refusing to take it. No one else can make you get well, we can only encourage you. Now, it’s up to you to take the steps and make things better. Pick yourself up and dust off, you can do it. It’s time to be strong and take positive action. No more sitting there, passively letting life drift by you. We love you and worry about you. Please, do something before it’s too late.

To P: Just shut up already. No body cares about what everybody else is doing wrong in their lives according to you. Hell, your life isn’t something I would even strive for. For once, just try to be supportive and understanding of other people’s differences. And don’t assume that whatever you decide is going to happen, will. It’s not. I’ll make sure of it. Get your nose out of the air and lighten up.

To M: It’s time to put your foot down already. Quit letting everyone walk all over you and stop enabling their behavior. I love you more than words can say and I hate to see you used and abused, like what is happening now. You may have to be mean, but it’ll be worth it to take your life back from the ones that are slowly draining it out. You’ve been through a lot and deserve, no NEED, some time off. Get those toxic people away from you, at least for a little while.

To A: Let him go. You only want to contribute marginally to a relationship and it’s not fair. You cannot expect him to always go along with what you want to do. And keep the political comments to yourself. He is a grown-ass man and can think for himself. Me, too. Recognize that fact.

To B: Stop being judgemental, cause it ain’t right. Guess what? The relatives, neighbors and your friends are not judging you by what your family is doing, so you should not do that to someone else. If they are, you need to set them straight, because that’s just not cool. You can’t control everything that you want to. You can’t force other people to live the way you think is acceptable to society. And besides, society has changed since you were younger. Things, that at one time were not okay, now are common. So deal with it.

To the other P: You need to regroup your priorities. When a sister’s VIOLENT boyfriend’s feelings are more important to you than the sister’s, something is wrong. You are such a hypocrite. Don’t say you want a certain relationship and then at your first opportunity to prove it, switch loyalties. What’s up with that? Why should anyone depend on you to be there, when you never have been? I know I don’t. Clue in.

And last, but not least...

To L: I love you and miss you very much. Yet, deep in my heart, I am a little angry with you. How could you leave things the way you did? Why didn’t you prepare for the future better? You had an idea that things were going to change and still, did nothing. I have moved on and am getting over this, but it’s taking time. So many things, I wish could be different, but this is the way it’s turned out to. It was just too soon. For everyone.

That feels better... for now.